Home for the Holidays? Practicing New Skills in an Old Environment

Heading home for the holidays can conjure the warm fuzzies of nostalgia and anxiety of old patterns or family conflict. Whether heading home from college, returning to your childhood home with your own family in tow, or hosting family yourself, spending time...

Feeding Your Addiction or Feeding Your Recovery – Your Choice

So, I like to look at how addiction can manifest in our lives, kind of like a pet, a cuddly, furry, loving, adoring little pet.  A pet that likes to snuggle your neck, comfort you and keep you company.  This pet of ours, our addictive traits, comes into our...

Loss of Intimacy and Connection

I remember the day that my mother-in-law instructed me how to best connect to my sister-in-laws, who are substantially younger than me.  My mother-in-law stated that it is best to meet them on their own turf, reaching out to them via text, rather than any other...

Lapse vs. Relapse

A lapse or relapse is a dysregulation of neurochemicals, a return to old behaviors.  We hear the terms lapse and relapse used often in reference to people who use substances.  But we can also apply it to other behaviors, such as acting out in rage or anger,...

Helping Your Teen Make Healthy Changes

    Often it is difficult to help someone who doesn’t want to change. Actually it’s impossible to help someone who doesn’t want to change. That’s why a system called Motivational Interviewing has been created to help people want to...