Loss of Intimacy and Connection

I remember the day that my mother-in-law instructed me how to best connect to my sister-in-laws, who are substantially younger than me.  My mother-in-law stated that it is best to meet them on their own turf, reaching out to them via text, rather than any other...

How to Create a Strong and Long-Term Recovery Plan

Research shows that 12-step groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) are vital to a strong recovery plan and long-term sobriety.  While they are not a counseling or treatment program, 12-step groups do offer help in factors...

Defining Boundaries

Most of the following is for work with couples in recovery, but the boundary examples, message, and implementation are applicable for every person who has ever had someone cross their boundaries or had trouble in this area. What are boundaries?...

Lapse vs. Relapse

A lapse or relapse is a dysregulation of neurochemicals, a return to old behaviors.  We hear the terms lapse and relapse used often in reference to people who use substances.  But we can also apply it to other behaviors, such as acting out in rage or anger,...

Holidays and Counseling Resources

Why are the holidays so hard? Many people feel more on edge during the Christmas season.  It’s okay.  There are greater demands on many adults and children are on totally different schedules.  Being around family can cause more feelings of...