From Fractured Communication to Whole Messages

A common reasoning for seeking counseling is to improve communication skills. Many of us grew up in families that struggled to model healthy communication, conflict resolution, and expressing emotional needs. Without the proper training we repeat the same faulty tools...

Helping Kids Cool Off (From More Than Just the Heat)

What kid doesn’t love summer-time? Schools are out, camps are in, and everyone’s buzzing about the next big family vacation. There’s also that relentless summer heat, cooled only by a dive in the pool, a run through the sprinklers, or a few trips...

Spiritual Wounding

We often talk about Emotional or Physical wounds, but what does it mean to be “Spiritually wounded”? Similar to emotional wounding, spiritual wounding can come from an event (inside or outside of the church) that deeply impacts our faith, our sense of...

The Antidotes to the Four Horsemen

Last week we discussed Gottman’s Four Horsemen the Apocalypse. Hopefully you are beginning to notice which horsemen you tend to use. As you grow in your self-awareness, you can begin to catch yourself and instead choose to communicate differently. Here is what...

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

Marital researcher John Gottman has spent years identifying the strengths and downfalls of marriages. With over 40 years of research under his belt, he can predict with more than 90% accuracy whether a couple will stay together or get divorced. One of the predicting...