Eating Disorder Treatment: First Steps

  I remember the day I finally admitted to myself that I had an eating disorder. Despite the monumental evidence I’d chosen to ignore up to this point, it wasn’t until I caught a glimpse of the lanugo* growing across my cheekbones and down my jawline...

The 3 Essential Parts of Forgiveness

Recently my church community has been focusing on forgiveness – what does it mean that we are forgiven and what does it look like to be a forgiving people? It’s a challenging process, and one that’s been rattling around in my head quite a bit...

Disclosure After Infidelity Part III: Emotional Restitution Letter

You’ve done the hard work of the full therapeutic disclosure and the emotional impact letter, and are now arriving at the third and final stop of the therapeutic disclosure process – the emotional restitution letter. This step, like its predecessors, is a...

Shame Messages: Negative Core Beliefs

Shame & guilt are universal emotions that we have all experienced. The best way to distinguish between guilt & shame is this — guilt says “Woops, I did something wrong, I did something bad.” Shame says “I am bad, there is something...