The Best Communication Technique

    If I only had five minutes to change someone’s life, I would give them this DEARMAN tool.  A DEARMAN is a communication tool from dialectical behavior therapy which was designed by Marsha Linehan.1 It is a tool that helps us to connect and...

Letting Go of Resentment Toward Your Mate

  In my book, Making Love Last, I talk about 8 things couples need to learn to let go of if they are to have a vitally intimate relationship. One of those is resentment. Oftentimes couples find it hard to move toward a more intimate relationship because one or...

Crack the Communication Code

Let’s face it. You and your partner are very different. Not only do you come to marriage with different upbringings—you have different personalities and gender differences that make communication inherently challenging. You and your spouse may not be from...

Loving Listening

  If I’m honest with myself, I have to admit, listening is difficult. I would rather be listened to and understood than to listen to Gary. I want him to be riveted to my concerns about my day, but when he wants to offload the stresses of his, my attentions...