Many people find themselves in couples therapy asking how they can fix their communication problems. They mention they feel unheard and unloved during heated arguments. As a therapist, I can witness what the power of listening and attending to someone...
With almost everyone sheltering in place, working from home, or not working at all, it can be easy to lose focus on the relationship with your spouse. Maybe the two of you were close before and now there is a lot in the way, or maybe you were already living...
If I only had five minutes to change someone’s life, I would give them this DEARMAN tool. A DEARMAN is a communication tool from dialectical behavior therapy which was designed by Marsha Linehan.1 It is a tool that helps us to connect and...
Daniel has had a hard day at work. He couldn’t wait to get home. He fought through hours of traffic but he finally made it home. He pulled into the garage, shut off the car, and went into the house. Sitting at the kitchen table, his wife Karen sits, eyes...
When you’re working with a teammate and they show you their work, and you tell them: That’s no good That’s not what that is supposed to look like Have you ever seen this done right? The likely affect will be either anger, shame, and they will pull...
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