Co-Addiction vs. Trauma Informed Treatment for Betrayed Partners

In the early days of sex addiction treatment, clinicians took a copy + paste approach from successful substance abuse treatment protocols and applied it to sex addiction treatment. While some of this was (and remains) helpful for treating addiction, it unfortunately...

Disclosure After Infidelity

There is often a mixed reaction when we talk about a full disclosure – some couples want to race into it, others are scared to face it. Sometimes one party wants it, and the other doesn’t. Research shows, however, that 94% of couples that go through the...

Disclosure After Infidelity Part II: Emotional Impact Letter

After a disclosure of infidelity or sex addiction, a couple may choose to complete the difficult and important process of the full disclosure. Disclosure day is painful for both partners and can stir up a lot of difficult emotions. The final two parts of the...

Valentine’s Day: Blues or Cheers?

Every year around Valentine’s Day, advertisers inundate us with images of people celebrating love. For instance, a 30-second commercial for a diamond retailer highlights a man, on bended knee, proposing to his girlfriend. Pier bystanders look on with curiosity...

I Think My Partner May Be a Sex Addict…Now What?

She stood there, frozen in time, holding that tiny piece of register tape in her hand, staring. The world melted around her. Her heart was pounding and head felt like it was going to explode. She felt like someone had just sucker-punched her. “Now what?”...