Shame Messages: Negative Core Beliefs

Shame & guilt are universal emotions that we have all experienced. The best way to distinguish between guilt & shame is this — guilt says “Woops, I did something wrong, I did something bad.” Shame says “I am bad, there is something...

The Power of Affirmations

We are often our worst critics, judging ourselves more harshly than we would others. It is often easier to extend grace and compassion to friends and family than it is to ourselves. The messages we tell ourselves often perpetuate lies that root from shame, our...

The Benefit of Guilt and the Harm of Shame

Before you start, yes feeling guilty can be healthy and helpful. I’ll explain how and the difference between guilt and shame. I’ve heard people mix up these feelings many times, often giving guilt a worse context than it needs. The basic emotional and...

The Stages of Recovery

  Has your life been turned upside down by sexual behavior? Whether it is your partner’s behavior or your own, there is a road to recovery. If you are working on yourself individually and really wanting to change your sexual behavior, recovery usually goes...